Finding Your Way Through Grief and Loss
True grief is a normal, natural, universal experience given to us by God to process loss of any kind. When done in a healthy way, grieving can be a powerful exchange with God to lead you through seasons of pain, mourning and sadness. Grieving is not just something we do when a loved one dies, although that is an important aspect of grieving. There are a number of other life experiences and situations we need to grieve as well. Some of which include, relationships or friendships that were precious to us and are now gone, expectations or plans that didn't work out, life transitions, the loss of health, finances, trust, safety and dreams that did not come to fruition. Grief can also include processing painful experiences you've had, as well as grieving the loss of something you needed in life, but didn't receive.
Life after a loss can be hard, painful and even confusing. You may vacillate between wanting to isolate and be left alone, yet desiring to be seen, heard, connected and supported. Everyone grieves differently. There is no "right way" to grieve. The duration and components of grief are unique to each individual. There is not an appropriate time frame in which someone is to grieve. Unfortunately, many of us have been socialized to believe myths of grief such as : "time heals", "just stay busy," " grieve alone, you need to be strong for others," and "grieving is a sign of weakness and little faith."
Grief has an overarching holistic impact on our well-being. Griefwork is laborious, not linear, and takes time. Time itself does not heal; it is what you do within that time that matters. Intentional healing and allowing yourself to grieve makes way for the heart to heal.
When loss shatters your life, you don't need platitudes, toxic positivity or pretending you're OK when you are not. You need permission to fall apart, a safe place to grieve and mourn and grace to move through the grief process, at your own pace. Sometimes you may need auxiliary or professional help to do this. As a Christian and a Certified Grief and Mental Health Coach, I am honored to provide you this space in the format of online personal coaching. I'll provide compassionate witnessing, affirmation and support of your unique grief journey, offering prayer along with actionable steps and a structure for your healing.
You do not need to traverse the unknown terrain of grief and loss alone. Christian Grief coaching is available. If you are ready to make a transformational pivot in your heart healing journey after loss, contact Anchored Horizons today!